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Hey you, learn how to romanticize your life today or else.
Haha, just kidding..
No, but seriously, do it. You’ll thank me later.
The concept of “romanticizing your life” or having “main character energy” can seem really weird at first but it’s actually quite simple and fun once you know what it truly means and why it’s important to do it.
During the pandemic, I made a conscious decision to quit people pleasing and intentionally start taking care of myself emotionally, physically, and mentally.
For the longest time, I was acting as the supporting role in other people’s lives, but never the main character in my own life.
I would often put other people’s needs and feelings before my own without fully realizing that those actions were hurting me in the long run.
But. not. no. mo.
I am completely free and you can be also. Since main character energy and romanticizing your life go hand in hand, I have learned how to take back my power in cultivating this main character energy and now you can learn how to romanticize your life today!
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What Does It Mean To Romanticize Your Life?
When we talk about romanticizing your life, it’s all about finding the joy in the little moments, noticing and appreciating the beauty within and around you, and celebrating yourself in all of the small/big wins that you’ve accomplished.
Zooming in on those positive details can help to increase your joy, gratitude, and the happiness within and around you!
Romanticizing your life is a form of mindfulness that brings mental clarity, improves concentration, and increases your empathy for other people in a healthy way.
Google defines Mindfulness as a mental state achieved by focusing on one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.
Sometimes, the act of mindfulness can be mistaken for clearing out negative thoughts and that’s it.
But in actuality, it’s all about being aware of what’s happening inside of you — both mentally and emotionally, and how those thoughts/feelings are projecting outward through your actions, environment, and present moment.
Is It Bad To Romanticize Your Life?
If you think romanticizing your life is bad, it will be bad. It’s really just that simple.
Remember this: I think, therefore I am.
Whatever you think about all day, is whatever you become. And whoever you surround yourself with the most, reflects who you inside.
As humans, most of us are conditioned (as kids) to focus on the negative things in our lives rather than the positive things. And in turn, those negative things end up becoming our reality.
For example, watching negative things on the news every day can cause a lot of negative thoughts and feelings like stress and anxiety – which physically projects outward leading to more stress and anxiety in our lives.
Now, don’t get me wrong, romanticizing your life can be bad if you:
- Don’t have a real acknowledgement for life and try to appear “perfect” all of the time
- Solely focus on money, wealth, and materialistic things
- Promote false media representation about mental health
- Are egocentric
- Romanticize suffering, negativity, and toxic habits like abuse and heart breaks
And last but not least, if you follow unrealistic beauty standards of wanting to be or look more like your favorite celebrity.
These are all misinformed notions of what romanticizing your life actually looks like.
Why You Should Romanticize Your Life
Every day you’re on this earth should be acelebration! It’s not enough to wait a whole year until your birthday rolls around to romanticize your life and be the main character for a day. Celebrating yourself should be a part of your everyday routine.
Have you ever just met someone who oozed ‘main character energy’ from head to toe and you just couldn’t stop staring?
Every space they walked into or filled, your attention went directly to them?
Yea, son — that person is projecting main character realness in the flesh.
So what is main character energy, you may ask?
Main character energy is a slang term used on social media to describe or refer to someone who is or wants to be the center of attention or wants more focus on them.
Everyone has main character energy — we just have to learn to tap into it.
Don’t be the supporting role in someone else’s life. Be the main character in your own life.
Psychology Today states that the Spotlight Effect is the tendency to think that more people notice more about you than they actually do.
If you struggle with the Spotlight Effect and really care about what other people think you’re doing in your own life, please stop this.
Not to sound morbid or anything but we all came into this world alone and we are all leaving this world alone.
I’m sorry to break it to you, but you can never care for me in the way that I need to care for me. Okurrrr.
And trust me when I say this, every human is at the center of their own universe. As a human race, our very existence is from our own perspective and experiences.
Everyone is too busy focused on their own personal lives, their own perspectives, and their own experiences to be worried about what you got going on in yours.
But please, let’s not get this notion confused with egocentrism — where arrogance comes into play and the value of life is more placed on ourselves rather than on others.
In this conversation, we are specifically talking about the importance of healthily romanticizing your life by not caring about what other people think about what’s happening in your life, and to fully embrace the main character energy to the fullest.
Sometimes my business ain’t your business. Can I have my business to myself sometimes?
And always remember this: you cannot pour from an empty cup. Get right with yourself first so that you can ultimately help others in a healthy way.
You only have one life to live. DO NOT dare live your life for someone else.
How To Romanticize Your Life
Here are 67 (yes, you read that right!) realistic ways to romanticize your life with ease and flow:
1. Take yourself on a solo date
2. Make yourself a simple, elegant breakfast
3. Read a book in a coffee shop
4. Have a solo picnic at the park
5. Set your clothes out the night before
6. Compliment yourself at least 3 times a day
7. Be intentional and take your time completing a task
8. Write a postcard or letter to a friend
9. Get yourself a set of matching pajamas
10. Take a slow bath/shower
11. Slow down your nighttime routine
12. Fill your space with aesthetically pleasing plants
13. Get a variety of lamps with cozy lighting
14. Attend a concert / festival alone
15. Travel solo to another country
16. Write yourself a self-love letter and read it daily
17. Unplug / Digital Detox for 24 hours
18. Create a mood-boosting playlist of “romantic music”
19. Buy yourself fresh flowers
20. Go to the movies solo during the day
21. Visit and study mindfulness at the library
22. Take a relaxing art class
23. Practice positive self-talk / positive thinking daily
24. Burn candles and meditate
25. Cook a new/favorite meal
26. Wear your favorite perfume
27. Dance solo like nobody’s watching
28. Pick a location and take a long road trip
29. Get dolled up for the day
30. Spring clean your home
31. Book a dreamy Airbnb
32. Go to the beach and sit by the water
33. Use classy dishes and silverware
34. Paint your nails your favorite color
35. Learn a new hobby
36. Get your hair done
37. Host a luxurious dinner party
38. Buy yourself dainty jewelry
39. Have a dreamy photoshoot
40. Update your vision board
41. Fill a joy jar with paper slips of things that bring you joy every day
42. Redecorate your space
43. Start a herb garden
44. Remove toxic contacts / unused apps from your phone
45. Journal your feelings in the morning and at night
46. Clean out your closet and donate unwanted clothes
47. Delete unnecessary emails from your inbox
48. Do an activity you enjoyed as a child
49. Create something just for you
50. Go for a walk or hike in nature
51. Take pictures of simple moments and add it to a scrapbook
52. Have a deep conversation with a stranger
53. Send someone a thoughtful gift
54. Celebrate at lease 3 small wins in your life daily
55. Take a chance on finding love
56. Plan and have the best day ever
57. Do a spontaneous activity right now
58. Attend an art museum
59. Start a skincare routine
60. Take 2 healthy 1-hour breaks from your busy day
61. Send out holiday cards to loved ones
62. Say “Good Morning, Gorgeous” to yourself in the mirror every day
63. Express gratitude daily
64. Dress your bed with silky sheets
65. Watch the sunrise or sunset
66. Hug someone
67. Smile and compliment a stranger today
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Romanticize Your Life Challenge
And there you have it! These are some of the realistic ways to romanticize your life without breaking the bank.
Now time for your actionable steps in the romanticize your life challenge:
Before you say no, please challenge yourself in choosing 10 realistic ideas above to implement into your daily routine this week!
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Which of these ideas are you excited to try out?
Let me know down in the comments below!