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Hey you, learn how to romanticize your life today or else.

Haha, just kidding..

No, but seriously, do it. You’ll thank me later.

The concept of “romanticizing your life” or having “main character energy” can seem really weird at first but it’s actually quite simple and fun once you know what it truly means and why it’s important to do it.    

During the pandemic, I made a conscious decision to quit people pleasing and intentionally start taking care of myself emotionally, physically, and mentally.

For the longest time, I was acting as the supporting role in other people’s lives, but never the main character in my own life.

I would often put other people’s needs and feelings before my own without fully realizing that those actions were hurting me in the long run.

But. not. no. mo.

I am completely free and you can be also. Since main character energy and romanticizing your life go hand in hand, I have learned how to take back my power in cultivating this main character energy and now you can learn how to romanticize your life today!

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What Does It Mean To Romanticize Your Life?

When we talk about romanticizing your life, it’s all about finding the joy in the little moments, noticing and appreciating the beauty within and around you, and celebrating yourself in all of the small/big wins that you’ve accomplished.

Zooming in on those positive details can help to increase your joy, gratitude, and the happiness within and around you!

Romanticizing your life is a form of mindfulness that brings mental clarity, improves concentration, and increases your empathy for other people in a healthy way.

Google defines Mindfulness as a mental state achieved by focusing on one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.

Sometimes, the act of mindfulness can be mistaken for clearing out negative thoughts and that’s it.

But in actuality, it’s all about being aware of what’s happening inside of you — both mentally and emotionally, and how those thoughts/feelings are projecting outward through your actions, environment, and present moment.

Is It Bad To Romanticize Your Life?

If you think romanticizing your life is bad, it will be bad. It’s really just that simple.

Remember this: I think, therefore I am.

Whatever you think about all day, is whatever you become. And whoever you surround yourself with the most, reflects who you inside.

As humans, most of us are conditioned (as kids) to focus on the negative things in our lives rather than the positive things. And in turn, those negative things end up becoming our reality.

For example, watching negative things on the news every day can cause a lot of negative thoughts and feelings like stress and anxiety – which physically projects outward leading to more stress and anxiety in our lives.

Now, don’t get me wrong, romanticizing your life can be bad if you:

• Don’t have a real acknowledgement for life and try to appear “perfect” all of the time
• Solely focus on money, wealth, and materialistic things
• Promote false media representation about mental health
• Are egocentric
• Romanticize suffering, negativity, and toxic habits like abuse and heart breaks

And last but not least, if you follow unrealistic beauty standards of wanting to be or look more like your favorite celebrity.

These are all misinformed notions of what romanticizing your life actually looks like.

Why You Should Romanticize Your Life

Every day you’re on this earth should be acelebration! It’s not enough to wait a whole year until your birthday rolls around to romanticize your life and be the main character for a day. Celebrating yourself should be a part of your everyday routine.

Have you ever just met someone who oozed ‘main character energy’ from head to toe and you just couldn’t stop staring?

Every space they walked into or filled, your attention went directly to them?

Yea, son — that person is projecting main character realness in the flesh.

So what is main character energy, you may ask?

Main character energy is a slang term used on social media to describe or refer to someone who is or wants to be the center of attention or wants more focus on them.

Everyone has main character energy — we just have to learn to tap into it.

Don’t be the supporting role in someone else’s life. Be the main character in your own life.

Psychology Today states that the Spotlight Effect is the tendency to think that more people notice more about you than they actually do.

If you struggle with the Spotlight Effect and really care about what other people think you’re doing in your own life, please stop this.

Not to sound morbid or anything but we all came into this world alone and we are all leaving this world alone.

I’m sorry to break it to you, but you can never care for me in the way that I need to care for me. Okurrrr.

And trust me when I say this, every human is at the center of their own universe. As a human race, our very existence is from our own perspective and experiences.

Everyone is too busy focused on their own personal lives, their own perspectives, and their own experiences to be worried about what you got going on in yours.

But please, let’s not get this notion confused with egocentrism — where arrogance comes into play and the value of life is more placed on ourselves rather than on others.

In this conversation, we are specifically talking about the importance of healthily romanticizing your life by not caring about what other people think about what’s happening in your life, and to fully embrace the main character energy to the fullest.

Sometimes my business ain’t your business. Can I have my business to myself sometimes?

And always remember this: you cannot pour from an empty cup. Get right with yourself first so that you can ultimately help others in a healthy way.

You only have one life to live. DO NOT dare live your life for someone else.

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How To Romanticize Your Life

Here are 67 (yes, you read that right!) realistic ways to romanticize your life with ease and flow:

1. Take yourself on a solo date

2. Make yourself a simple, elegant breakfast

3. Read a book in a coffee shop

4. Have a solo picnic at the park

5. Set your clothes out the night before

6. Compliment yourself at least 3 times a day

7. Be intentional and take your time completing a task

8. Write a postcard or letter to a friend

9. Get yourself a set of matching pajamas

10. Take a slow bath/shower

11. Slow down your nighttime routine

12. Fill your space with aesthetically pleasing plants

13. Get a variety of lamps with cozy lighting

14. Attend a concert / festival alone

15. Travel solo to another country

16. Write yourself a self-love letter and read it daily

17. Unplug / Digital Detox for 24 hours

18. Create a mood-boosting playlist of “romantic music”

19. Buy yourself fresh flowers

20. Go to the movies solo during the day

21. Visit and study mindfulness at the library

22. Take a relaxing art class

23. Practice positive self-talk / positive thinking daily

24. Burn candles and meditate

25. Cook a new/favorite meal

26. Wear your favorite perfume

27. Dance solo like nobody’s watching

28. Pick a location and take a long road trip

29. Get dolled up for the day

30. Spring clean your home

31. Book a dreamy Airbnb

32. Go to the beach and sit by the water

33. Use classy dishes and silverware

34. Paint your nails your favorite color

35. Learn a new hobby

36. Get your hair done

37. Host a luxurious dinner party

38. Buy yourself dainty jewelry

39. Have a dreamy photoshoot

40. Update your vision board

41. Fill a joy jar with paper slips of things that bring you joy every day

42. Redecorate your space

43. Start a herb garden

44. Remove toxic contacts / unused apps from your phone

45. Journal your feelings in the morning and at night

46. Clean out your closet and donate unwanted clothes

47. Delete unnecessary emails from your inbox

48. Do an activity you enjoyed as a child

49. Create something just for you

50. Go for a walk or hike in nature

51. Take pictures of simple moments and add it to a scrapbook

52. Have a deep conversation with a stranger

53. Send someone a thoughtful gift

54. Celebrate at lease 3 small wins in your life daily

55. Take a chance on finding love

56. Plan and have the best day ever

57. Do a spontaneous activity right now

58. Attend an art museum

59. Start a skincare routine

60. Take 2 healthy 1-hour breaks from your busy day

61. Send out holiday cards to loved ones

62. Say “Good Morning, Gorgeous” to yourself in the mirror every day

63. Express gratitude daily

64. Dress your bed with silky sheets

65. Watch the sunrise or sunset

66. Hug someone

67. Smile and compliment a stranger today

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Romanticize Your Life Challenge

And there you have it! These are some of the realistic ways to romanticize your life without breaking the bank.

Now time for your actionable steps in the romanticize your life challenge:

Before you say no, please challenge yourself in choosing 10 realistic ideas above to implement into your daily routine this week!

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Which of these ideas are you excited to try out?

Let me know down in the comments below!