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Lately, I don’t know what it is, but I can’t seem to shake off this feeling of self-doubt as a new blogger. Before starting this journey, I had so much momentum and confidence to kill it in this game. I also had this stubborn attitude to never give up when times got rough! But now, I’m at a point where I feel a little down in the dumps.
If you’re a writer/blogger like myself and are going through some of these self-doubting woes, then this article is for you.
Even if you’re not a writer/blogger, but have a new business/venture that you’re starting out and are going through self-doubt, this article can apply to you too!
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I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s experienced some form of self-doubt in their lives. Heck, some of the greats that we know so well have gone through some form of self-doubting themselves.
The world-renowned Renaissance painter, Michelangelo doubted in his abilities to create the beautiful masterpiece The Last Judgement in the Sistine Chapel.
President Abraham Lincoln was known to have many self-doubts back in his day. And instead of crumbling under pressure, he used his self-doubt and depression to strengthen his confidence and fuel his life’s work.
Famous writer Edith Wharton also struggled with self-doubt. She doubted her abilities to write at all. She also struggled with feeling very inferior to a lot of her peers.
Even Leonardo Davinci — one of the world’s famous artists — doubted himself. Although he was popularly known for The Last Supper and the Mona Lisa portrait, he left a lot of his projects undone and was very hard on himself.
So if these great giants can push through their self-doubts and make it big in this world, what’s really stopping us from doing the same thing?
To explore this, we must understand what self-doubt is, uncover why we feel self-doubt, and figure out some solutions to overcoming self-doubt.
What is Self-Doubt?
Self-doubt is a lack of confidence in yourself and in your abilities, motives, personality, or thoughts. Simple as that. Whenever you go through self-doubt, it almost feels like you’re a deflated balloon that’s out of air and it’s only up to you to pump yourself (- esteem) back up.
This can be a grueling task, especially if your balloon is always deflated. It’s even worse when the self-doubt sneaks up behind you when you least expect it. But why do you feel this way?
Why do You Feel Self-Doubt as a New Blogger?
Fear of failure with the blog/business. As a perfectionist, the fear of failure is always in the back of our minds, haunting us whenever we feel low. And because of this, it’s always important to remember that failure is inevitable and that is completely okay.
It’s okay to mess up and start all over. If you put every effort in and learn from your mistakes, you can improve upon where you went wrong. Besides, the bitterness of failure makes the taste of success that much sweeter.
Burning out quickly or giving up completely. I definitely get the burning out part but giving up completely should never be an option, especially if you want to see success with anything. Sometimes, I’m guilty of taking on more than I can chew and I quickly burn out as a result.
For instance, it took me a whole hot minute to write this post because all I was doing in June, was writing, writing, promoting, marketing, and back to writing. Even just reading that line is giving me whiplash! It was a lot. So take it from me — it’s never a good idea to take on more than you can chew.
Giving up, on the other hand, is not even going to be discussed here because (again) this is not an option. You invested so much time into this thing already, it would be a waste just to give up now! …But if you have to give up, I would hope that you weigh out all of your options before doing so.
Surrounded by critical/unsupportive peeps. This one, for me, is big. I spent the last couple of months trying to convince other people that pursuing a blogging business was my destiny and trying to convince them to believe in that destiny for me as well. The worst part of this was when others (who had no knowledge of what I do, mind you) would try and sway me away from my goals by telling me what I should do with my blog instead. lol like boy bye!
Sadly, the cold hard truth is — unless there’s something in it for unsupportive people — they don’t really care about how hard you’re working to get to where you’re trying to go. The people you tell your business to will not know about the individual struggles you must face or the amount of hard work you will have to put in (alone!) to make this business a reality.
Honestly, I really don’t know why I was so adamant on trying to convince others about what I was pursuing. If anything, I think I was trying to convince myself more of this idea.
It sucks when you’re your own worst critic because you rely on others’ approval to make things seem okay and that right there, is not okay. If you believe in yourself and what you’re doing, other people’s opinions that are unsupportive and critical won’t matter. So please, don’t be too hard on yourself and keep going!
Feeling Overwhelmed with everything. When it comes to learning something new, there is a ton of information out there to sort through. As a new blogger, I often feel overwhelmed with the technical side, the marketing side, promotional side, and the content side.
There are a lot of moving pieces that need to be done to make this business work. Since there is no one true blogging guide for all, it can be so overwhelming when there are a lot of people who claim to know what they’re talking about and end up disappointing you with little to no information about the subject. It’s just a complete waste of time. The worst part is when you feel like you’re back to square one trying to figure it all out again.
Not knowing what you’re doing. Like any other business venture, the blogging business is new territory for me. Because it’s something I’ve never experienced before, it makes me doubtful of my abilities. When I first started learning about the Amazon Affiliate program and how to add disclosures to my website, I struggled with finding a legit tutorial on how to add disclosures to my website the right way.
It was a complete nightmare! I literally spent hours trying to figure this out and at one point, I had to walk away to regroup and start all over again.
Nonetheless, it does help to do things outside of my comfort zone so that I can learn a new skill and push myself to learn other things. Learning new skills like adding widgets and affiliate images to the blog helps me feel confident in knowing that I can teach myself anything if I put the effort in.
Feeling like you’re alone in this. Man, I think this feeling is the worst part of the business. You feel helpless, sad, and often think that you’re in this thing all by your lonesome.
Sometimes, it can get pretty dark when you start to feel sorry for yourself because no one understands or gets what you’re going through — especially when you feel burnt out! When your positive mentally gets replaced with a snarky little devil whispering nonsensical things into your ears, self-doubt can certainly creep its way in.
This is why I compiled a list of 19 tips to help you overcome self-doubt whenever you feel it creeping in.
How do You Overcome Self-Doubt as a New Blogger?
Remember the Why.
When you feel like doubting yourself, the why is so important to keep you going. Try asking yourself: why did you even start this blog/business in the first place? What did you want to get out of it?
I started this blog business because I wanted to reinvent myself and gain a better life of freedom so that I can pursue other things in life. I also wanted to help other millennials like myself take better care of themselves and dress the part too!
So whenever you feel low, write down a list of reasons why you started this journey and add new reasons as they come. Keep this list nearby so whenever you go to that dark place, you can read it and help pull yourself back.
This is for the moments when you feel like no one understands what you’re going through or doing with your life. The thing with that is you know what you’re doing and that’s all that matters! Even if you have to move back to your folks place for a little while and pick up a part-time job just so you can make this happen, you.know.the.reason.why. So stay focused.
Ignore the skeptical outsiders or the full-time haters that don’t get what you’re doing and who want to add their little two cents in about everything you should be doing instead. Be determined in your goals and stay focused on them.
Repeat Positive Affirmations.
Positive affirmations help so much in keeping you upbeat and focused. When you have a positive attitude about life, waking up every morning should be exciting because you are expectant of what’s to come and are motivated to do amazing things!
Try waking up every morning telling yourself that you are excited for what’s to come and that today, you will have a great day and are determined to do and learn so much from life.
For more tips on positive affirmations, check out the latest blog post below.
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Imagine Your Future Self.
Whenever you feel low, it helps to imagine yourself already being successful and doing so great with your blogging business. You can try this practice with the help of meditation and answering questions like: How did you do it? What steps did you take to get there? What kept you going?
If you answer these questions in-depth, you can use these steps to fuel yourself and take action in the present moment to help you reach your future self.
Don’t Compare Yourself to Others.
Remember that comparison is the thief of joy!
Everyone’s journey to success is different. If you find yourself comparing your stats or your personal journey to other bloggers, please stop. It doesn’t do anyone any good when you begin to compare. Everyone started from nothing and you don’t know what each blogger/person had to do to get to where they’re at today.
I’ll be honest and say that I found myself comparing myself to others that have started around the same time as me and are making way greater numbers than me. But then when I hear their full stories of how they did it, it makes sense because my journey with my blog does not match their journey.
When I first started, I was not good at writing consistently and there were even 2 months — March and April — where I barely wrote any posts at all. I was also trying to figure out the perfect niche and learning up on this blogging game.
With that being said, it doesn’t make sense to stress about comparing your starting point to others whose journeys are completely different from yours.
Forget the Numbers for a Sec.
Sometimes, it can get really depressing looking at your google analytics, word count, or account balance, especially as a new blogger.
Yes, I get it — the higher the numbers, the greater the rewards.
But when you’re feeling self-doubt, it doesn’t help your mental health to constantly be checking the numbers especially if they’re not where you want them to be. You checking your numbers will not make them go up.
Instead, focus your attention on things you can control — your content, your time, your promotion, your learning. With consistency and patience, this will eventually help to increase your numbers.
Be Patient with the Process.
Rome wasn’t built in a day. Anything you work hard for with your sweat and tears takes patience for it to grow.
Blogging is definitely teaching me that you have to be patient with the process. And I hate to take it back to kindergarten storytime, but even a little turtle taught us that slow and steady always wins the race.
So in this blogging journey, though I know you want that quick success — trust me, i do too! — remember that this is not a get-rich-quick-scheme but rather a long marathon that will eventually pay off in the end.
So, if you struggle with being patient, it’s probably best to read up on how to be patient with your blog and figure out certain practices in learning more patience.
Practice Self-Love Habits.
If you need to step away from your blog for a little while to get yourself together to come back harder, do it responsibly. Always prioritize yourself and your well-being.
You know how much you can take on any given day and what is pushing things too far. If you have to step away to gain your self-confidence or mojo back in this, then do it. But whatever you do, don’t give up and forget yourself in the process.
Join Facebook Groups.
Along with the Twitter blogging community, the Facebook blogging groups are so amazing at helping you feel welcomed and informing you about the business. Whether you blog as a hobby or a business, the bloggers are always there to help and give you feedback where you feel inadequate. Here are some of my favorite blogging groups to join:
- Blogging Newbs
- Blogging Boss Chicks
- Bloggers Supporting Bloggers
- Blogging Babes Collective
- Newbie & Expert Bloggers Unite
- Becoming a Blogger
- Pinfinite Traffic For Bloggers
- Boss Girl Bloggers
- Pinterest Pals
- Bloggers Unite on Pinterest
- Golden Bloggerz: Online Blogging Community
- Help a Blogger Out
- ASelfGuru – Biz Blog Community
- Make Time Online: Blogging & Online Biz Community
Chat With a Blogger Mate.
Through Facebook groups, you can also find blogger friends that understand exactly what you’re going through and are available to help you walk through those confusing times you have.
I highly recommend that you get a blogging bestie so you can stay motivated and in high spirits whenever you feel low. I, personally, have a blogging bestie and she is amazing! I love her so much!
We bounce ideas off of each other, we talk about our self-doubt issues, our weekly goals and where we can improve.
If you want to join my blogging community, you can subscribe down below and become part of the fam, fam :)!
Listen to Relatable Podcasts.
My blogging bestie put me onto the Gold Digger podcast, so I’ve been listening to that a lot. Recently, I got put on to the Make Time Online podcast. Here, you’ll listen to some of the best bloggers in the game right now and you’ll learn more about how they got their start to where they’re at right now. I’m still on the search for more blogger podcasts. If I find more, I will definitely let you know.
Also, I’ve been into a lot of audio self-help books lately whenever I feel down. So far, I am currently reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. I love it!
Invest in Yourself.
If you struggle with not knowing what you’re doing, you might need to recruit some help from other experienced bloggers who have been through the game for a long time!
I think every new blogger can gain a lot from investing in themselves. It’s already hard enough going through these feelings of self-doubt, so why add worrying about knowledge to the equation.
In fact, as my blog continues to grow, I will definitely be investing in more classes to help me improve upon my skills.
Ooh and let’s not forget about the legal side of blogging with Amira from ASelfGuru. She teaches you how to protect your blog business and protect your assets. Her Facebook group mentioned above is also pretty dope!
Organization is Key.
If you’re just starting out and are battling with self-doubt, I advise that you get a big calendar or a planner book immediately! You need to be organized to make sure you have all of your ducks in a row so you don’t get so overwhelmed or confused about the tasks for each day! Keep a planner handy or a content calendar filled with target goals and focus areas of different tasks to do each day.
Take it One Task at a Time.
This part kind of goes hand in hand with not overwhelming yourself. I still have to get better at this. I tend to work on everything at once and that’s not productive at all.
The only good thing about that is I get to write down a list of what worked and what didn’t work last month so that I can quickly adjust how to work better in the current month.
I suggest working on three main tasks a day and if you get those done early for that day, work on one miscellaneous task that is quick and easy.
In whatever you do, always remember to pace yourself because burning out is so real. Trust me, I know.
Write Quality Content.
Whenever I finish a post completely, I always feel so accomplished afterwards but then feel the self-doubt and anxiety of wondering whether anyone will like what I wrote or if anyone will read it at all.
Please. Do not torture yourself like this. You already have a lot to do. From researching to writing to editing and adding pictures to optimizing the content for SEO and publishing; it’s not safe to go into that sort of negative thinking.
Instead, be confident in knowing that you wrote something to help others with whatever they’re going through. And if anything, when you promote your article the right way, your tribe will eventually find you!! So please stop worrying.
Another thing that can bring self-doubt is worrying about what to actually write about. Please beware of the exhausting writer’s block. It will definitely come. There are days where the words just aren’t coming, and you may have to step aside and do something else and step back in with a fresh thinking so that the words can easily flow. Or you can try scribbling and brainstorming random words until you find your flow to write again.
Promote Your Content.
Unless you’re a celebrity or famous for something, traffic just doesn’t appear. You have to work hard and find different ways to bring the traffic to you. Sort of like creating cool Pinterest pins to help bring in traffic to your content.
Pin for Later!
Almost all of the Facebook groups mentioned above can definitely help with bringing in traffic to your blog. There are also wonderful Twitter groups out there that do the same thing.
Some of my favorite Twitter blogging groups are:
- Bloggers Hut
- TRJ For Bloggers
- The Blogger Group
- The Cosy Bloggers’ Club
- Blogger Dreams RT
- Blogging Babes RT
- USBlog Retweets
When you visit other blogs, it’s best practice to share or comment on their content so that other bloggers can come and do the same for you. Also, commenting on posts helps you get your name out there but please, do not be spammy with it.
Celebrate the Small Wins.
This part is so necessary for the blogging journey. Although it doesn’t seem like it, you’re celebrating the little milestones that will eventually lead to your major success. So it’s very important to celebrate your small wins now so you can enjoy the bigger wins later.
A small win for me was when I made three sales through affiliate marketing and got approved for the Amazon Affiliate program. The amount wasn’t much but I was excited that I could actually sell something and get approved so quickly.
Keep That Same Energy.
That same energy that you had before you started your blog, yea keep that energy.
At that time, I bet you were feeling super confident and dedicated to being successful in this game. Tap back into that energy and use it as motivation to fuel you. Again, go back to the why and ask yourself what and how did you feel when you first started before the self-doubt kicked in? You have to figure that part out, talk yourself through it, and keep the hope alive.
And lastly but never the least,
Never, Ever, Ever, give UP!
In closing if you fail, dust yourself off and get back in the game! You got this! The world needs your unique perspective and your blog/business to inspire others. I bet if you looked into a future globe and saw that you were inspiring others with what you’re doing, that would inspire you to keep going.
Therefore, the first person you need to inspire is yourself! Inspire yourself and prove the haters and all of the critics in your head wrong! You have the power and the ability to do what it takes to win! You deserve it! Never give up on yourself for it will be worth it in the end!
In the future, I hope to be one of those success stories, check back on this article, and think about how I pushed through and overcame my self-doubt as a new blogger.
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Now Let’s Discuss:
How do you overcome self-doubt?
Please let me know down in the comments below of any tips/tricks you may have in overcoming self-doubt. I’m always looking for new ways to conquer my own self-doubt.
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